I hate Facebook. Have I mentioned that yet? I had enough about 2 years ago but I kept my account open. I recently cleaned up my friends list and deleted about 100 people. When my mom died people actually thought sending a condolence via Facebook would suffice. That is when it got to be too much. Unless you have never met someone in person or have not seen them since high school don't send a fucking sympathy note via Facebook. It is too fucked up. Instead, go to the dollar store and pick up a damn card , sign your name and stick a stamp on it. I didn't want to go all crazy-ass over this. I thought I would let it rest but it kept bothering me. Really bothering me. Then I started really paying attention to what people were posting. One woman I had on my friends list used to slam her family and neighbours in her posts. I guess somebody called her on it because then there was a post saying she thought Facebook was a "safe place" to vent. Anyway, I am tired of the same old shit day after day so I deleted my entire account. But get this. It is never really deleted! It just sits inactive until you give in (to your addiction) and sign back in. Bah.
In other news I bought 24 pairs of new socks today. I threw all the old ones away. I know it is a stupid thing to get excited about but all my socks were like cheese-cloth.
I mentioned a video post a while back and I am thinking of doing it soon. I was thinking of a "Day in the Life of B@rbara" thing. I was going to do it this week seeing as how I just had my eyebrows waxed but then this huge zit appeared on my cheek. Drat it anyway. Maybe next week.
A video post? oh Wow... that sounds interesting and cool.... go for it.
ReplyDeleteAs for Facebook... I can see why you would hate it... I am sorry people thought it enough to send a Post it on Facebook... it is just so easy... does not involve any effort on one's part... I am sorry... if it is a friend or a family and they lost someone and I was far away, I always call... posting on Facebook is not enough... unless, as you mentioned, you do not see them or have not in ages... I feel with you.
As you already know, I defriended a few people at FB today. I do still like the site overall and enjoy the connection I have with certain people there.
ReplyDeleteI'm guilty of leaving FB condolences but only if someone actually posted a status about a death or a link to an obituary and I didn't have personal contact with them.
My friend's father died recently and she sent me a text message to let me know. I did call her after finding out and we met in person a day or two later but I didn't even get the message right away because I don't use my cell phone all the time. We have a land line, so I use that one more often if I'm at home.
I'm so jealous of your new socks!! I really need to go shopping soon because the few that I have left are pretty sad looking. Lately, I've been wearing hubby's insulated work socks. Warm, but not very stylish.
I'm of a slightly older generation,cut and paste messages across the ether just seem so impersonal. I miss letters, real Birthday and Christmas cards,yet nobody has the time anymore, too busy of FB, letting their virtual friends know and receiving platitudes from them, for having sucessfully dressed themselves et al., you know the importnat stuff of life
ReplyDeletefacebook causes way too much trouble. it tends to bring out the worst in people as they can hide behind the keyboard to achieve lazy "wins". i could go on for ever.....
ReplyDeleteI hate facebook too. So much that I've never joined despite just about everybody I know encouraging me because 'it's good for work, promoting something, networking', all of which I agree with. But it's also used by messed up people to create life drama where there is none.
ReplyDeleteI try to encourage myself that it could be good but something keeps telling me not to do it. Instinct I guess, and I always trust my instinct.
My main irk with Facebook are all of the PC posts and links. I mean- I'm as hippie/liberal/tree-hugging as I can be but somehow, all that shit makes me want to go eat a hamburger from a plastic box.
ReplyDeleteI suppose above all, I am contrary.
I lurk a bit. That's mostly what I do on Facebook. I still haven't figured out why it's so huge.
All electronic cards are trashy and lazy, condolence is supposed to heal through human empathy, not empathy.com!
ReplyDeleteI did attend an e-funeral (world wide video conferencing really) but that's a post for another day.
I would love to see a video post! What fun. Maybe it's time for all of us to come out from behind the curtain!
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed all you said about facebook. I can't even bring myself to capitalize the name of that weird venture in which one freaky, sociopathic little boy has capitalized on the personal business of countless people for way too long. Two years ago on facebook I learned that the man who swore up and down he loved me and wanted me for his wife was (wait for it) married to someone else. Somewhere between getting married and not telling me he managed to ask if he could use my car to teach the second son of his first (of four) wives to drive standard. I hate facebook for helping this jerk rip my guts out but also for delighting in helping this jerk rip my guts out as it spent the cash dividend on the ads it sold while my heart broke and a big piece of me died.
More than you asked for. Down with facebook. Thank you for being you.
Ahhhh now a video post we call a vlog ::))
ReplyDeleteAND I love your colourful language and how you just say it like it is
I miss you. ;)
ReplyDeleteYay! You're back. Or am I back? I'm not sure but I did miss your prolific posts. I deleted my Facebook a few years back but am back checking occasionally due to the Osteogenesis Imperfecta support group. I agree. i don't care if you're "going to have my coca cola and go to bed." etc. Facebook....texting...all part of the plot to de-personalize "friendship. I text...I have to or my young clients will not answer my phone calls re: their infants therapy....but i am sick of people forgetting how to send a sympathy card, pick up a phone and actually speak to someone and sick of birthday wishes on Facebook.
ReplyDeleteyou are so right about not actually being able to delete facebook. to delete one page i had, i had to create another, deactivate the one i wanted to be rid of and then claim the email address on the new page.. so, i still have a page!!!!!
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i get excited about socks too! new shampoo, body wash, and deodorant. doesn't take much to amuse me!